I'm asking for help in this post because, seriously, I'm faced with a dilemma and I just don't know what to do.
OK- here's the back story... as of their birthday the Monkey's still had their pacifiers, aka, mi-mi's.
Hubby and I decided that we should probably work on taking them away.
Puddin's was easy to get rid of- in fact the day we returned from her dental appointment it was NO-MORE! You see, the dentist asked, "does she still have a pacifier?" and I responded, "yes" and got a "hmmm" back as a reply, much to my humiliation. She was only two and a half but we ditched it that day. I just moved her out of her crib to a big girl bed and told her mi-mi's couldn't go in big girl beds and she was ok with that.
Now, back to the Monkeys...
Monkey Do has been easy to break of his mi-mi. Shortly after hubby and I had the "discussion" we started finding mi-mi's with holes chewed in them. If given to the boys, they would promptly throw them back at us in disgust- not kidding. So the boys widdled 15+ mi-mi's down to just 2 in a matter of 2 weeks. Now, each boy had only 1, they were only allowed to have them in their cribs, we never let them roam around the house with them all of the time. Mi-mi's were strictly for bed time. So one night Monkey Do threw his mi-mi out and refused to take it. Quickly I noted that it had a hole in it so I explained again that we had to throw it away because it was broken and we weren't going to buy anymore. Monkey Do was a big boy now and no longer needed a mi-mi. That was that. With the exception of a night or two when I was out and he tormented hubby with the screams of "MI-MI!!" from his crib. But, all in all, he was pretty easy.
Not the same for his brother. See, Monkey See was not the Monkey chewing the holes... that was all Monkey Do. So he was very careful and purposeful with
his mi-mi. He would keep it in his crib, for the most part. He would tell it bye-bye when it was time to get out and was oh, so happy to see it again at bed time. He knew that when it was broken it would be gone and we would not be buying more mi-mi's. I should also say, he is my sensitive child. He can be very emotional and attached to things.
So today he went to get into his crib at bedtime and all he could say was "Wook, Momma!!! Where Mi-Mi? Wook MOMMA!!!" He was upset! I looked, and I looked and I looked. I never did find that thing. So, nap time was miserable. Poor thing cried forever it seemed and when he finally did sleep he woke up 30 minutes later, devastated! He was sobbing, "mi-mi, mi-mi, mi-mi!!!!" Oh, I'm telling you, it was horrible! When he cries he also breaks out in hives so by the time I got to him.... eewwwww... it was bad! He just looked terrible! Hives, snot and tears are not a good thing! He was simply heart broken and grieving for his poor mi-mi! So, I help him for about an hour while I tried to get him calmed down as I fed the babies and got the other children up and dressed. I have no idea how I did it. Apparently, I am part octopus.
Finally, once I could wrangle free I started folding some diapers and remembered a moment this afternoon, shortly before naptime. Puddin was standing at the top of the staircase looking down at us and calling Monkey See to come play. Suddenly, something slipped from her hands and fell to the floor below. I asked her what she dropped and she replied, "a dinosaur".. I assumed she was being honest....(whole other post!). Suddenly, it dawned on me the flying object I saw her drop was too small to be a dinosaur so I started looked under the couch (among the dust bunnies that happily live there) and guess what I found????
So now, what do I do??
Should I give my sweet baby boy his mi-mi back? After all, he didn't do anything wrong. He followed the rules we had set and took care of it. His sneaky sister is at fault for this one.
Or, should I just be done with the whole mi-mi thing and consider myself fortunate that this happened? I mean, after all, he is the type that could "take care" of his mi-mi and follow the rules until he is 12 years old! And I certainly don't want to face the dentist again with a meek little "yes".
I just keep seeing this face.....
So, what should I do?? Help!